Comments on: The Slow, Painful Death Of A Marriage http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/the-painful-death-of-a-marriage/ IS IT CRAZY IN HERE, OR IS IT JUST ME? Fri, 29 Aug 2008 02:16:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Heather http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/the-painful-death-of-a-marriage/#comment-386 Heather Mon, 26 May 2008 14:37:12 +0000 http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/?p=152#comment-386 I am so sorry. I read your words and thought "I know exactly how she feels right now!!!" My eyes got all watery,and my nose tingled...these days tissues are never far. Long story short-my husband of 3 years decides he is "unhappy" and wants a divorce. So almost 3 weeks ago he filed for one. Then he decided he wanted to come home again a week and a half later.(ugh) It would have been easier if he would have not come back,it has been awful since (1 week ago). I am so so sorry for your hurt,and wish you all the best!!!! I ran across your blog this am while doing some "Googling". Sometimes you find the the things you needed when you didnt know they were exactly what you needed to find. I am so sorry. I read your words and thought “I know exactly how she feels right now!!!” My eyes got all watery,and my nose tingled…these days tissues are never far. Long story short-my husband of 3 years decides he is “unhappy” and wants a divorce. So almost 3 weeks ago he filed for one. Then he decided he wanted to come home again a week and a half later.(ugh) It would have been easier if he would have not come back,it has been awful since (1 week ago).

I am so so sorry for your hurt,and wish you all the best!!!!
I ran across your blog this am while doing some “Googling”. Sometimes you find the the things you needed when you didnt know they were exactly what you needed to find.

]]> By: Beth http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/the-painful-death-of-a-marriage/#comment-380 Beth Sat, 24 May 2008 22:57:43 +0000 http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/?p=152#comment-380 I wish I had the magic words...I am a firm believer in marriage even though it has never worked for me. I have the utmost respect for anyone who has been married/together for as long as you and Stephen have been. My prayers are with you and I believe you know that. I wish I had the magic words…I am a firm believer in marriage even though it has never worked for me. I have the utmost respect for anyone who has been married/together for as long as you and Stephen have been. My prayers are with you and I believe you know that.

]]> By: Suzanne Monroy http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/the-painful-death-of-a-marriage/#comment-356 Suzanne Monroy Wed, 14 May 2008 01:02:04 +0000 http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/?p=152#comment-356 Thank you for the great advice. I pray that I can get through this. Thank you for the great advice. I pray that I can get through this.

]]> By: ocdiva http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/the-painful-death-of-a-marriage/#comment-354 ocdiva Tue, 13 May 2008 17:04:42 +0000 http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/?p=152#comment-354 I know what you mean, having an avalanche of bad news and health problems, then realizing you may have to start all over. My husband and I usually approached everything as a team, but when he went to work out of town for almost a year, a lot of things changed. It is scary, but mostly, it is heartbreaking because all the things you took for granted would be there forever might not be. We all fall in and out of love, but when it's over, it's OVER. My son is 16 with a chronic illness so I understand the pressure you are under... just remember your kid comes first. Maybe if your husband got away for awhile he could see more clearly what he needs to do. The intimacy thing is always a bigger deal for men than for us girls, I think. Perhaps that has made him feel doubtful of himself. Good luck. Please let me know how you are. My email is earth2sonja@yahoo.com. I know what you mean, having an avalanche of bad news and health problems, then realizing you may have to start all over. My husband and I usually approached everything as a team, but when he went to work out of town for almost a year, a lot of things changed. It is scary, but mostly, it is heartbreaking because all the things you took for granted would be there forever might not be. We all fall in and out of love, but when it’s over, it’s OVER. My son is 16 with a chronic illness so I understand the pressure you are under… just remember your kid comes first. Maybe if your husband got away for awhile he could see more clearly what he needs to do. The intimacy thing is always a bigger deal for men than for us girls, I think. Perhaps that has made him feel doubtful of himself. Good luck. Please let me know how you are. My email is earth2sonja@yahoo.com.

]]> By: Suzanne Monroy http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/the-painful-death-of-a-marriage/#comment-353 Suzanne Monroy Tue, 13 May 2008 16:56:30 +0000 http://ocdiva.wordpress.com/?p=152#comment-353 Wow, this is so true, I have been married for almost 19 years, and last night my husband told me that he does not know if he still loves me. How can this be? I know we have had problems, but we have always retreated and sucked it up and he was indeed the Yes Man....retreat describes him. He has gone through a loss of both parents, a heart attack, and I have a lot of health issues, a son who is 15 with a disability and now when I am down and out, I am told this. He has always been there for me... adored me, but our intimacy lacks due to his heart medication and stated that he feels like less than a man, even though I reassured him that I will work w/him and we can get through this...I don't know how to move on now.... Wow, this is so true, I have been married for almost 19 years, and last night my husband told me that he does not know if he still loves me. How can this be? I know we have had problems, but we have always retreated and sucked it up and he was indeed the Yes Man….retreat describes him. He has gone through a loss of both parents, a heart attack, and I have a lot of health issues, a son who is 15 with a disability and now when I am down and out, I am told this. He has always been there for me… adored me, but our intimacy lacks due to his heart medication and stated that he feels like less than a man, even though I reassured him that I will work w/him and we can get through this…I don’t know how to move on now….

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